Writing and Running. And — oh yeah — Getting Older.

In college I took an essay-writing course that I loved. A woman in our class wrote an essay one week called “Writing and Running.” Even though it was a long, long time ago, I remember it clearly because of what she said. She said that she dreaded writing and running but she made herself do them both everyday. It always made her feel better. I’m the same way. When I lace up my sneakers I dread the run ahead. Afterwards, I feel great. (Lest I sound like some sort of athlete here, I do baby, fake runs that don’t hurt. You should know the truth.)

I feel the same way about writing. I  dread it, but I need it. I can’t think straight otherwise, and that’s just like running for me. But it took me a long time to face this particular fact.

I turned 40 last year. 39 was a hard year for me; it felt like a year of reckoning. What I had done. What I wanted to do. What I had to accept at this point of my life about who I am.

I had three goals I wanted to accomplish before I turned 40: I decided to run a marathon, publish a book, and get a passport. The only thing I didn’t get to was the passport, which is arguably the easiest item on the list. I just pushed it to the side, because I was too busy writing. And running.

Here’s the thing: I never really wanted to run a marathon, but I wanted to prove it to myself that I could run a marathon. See the difference? And even though I am not a stellar athlete, and I’m not always the most rigorous person, I told myself I could do it. You know how I knew?

Because other people do it.

I know that other people aren’t magic, so I studied training programs and I read runner blogs and just basically followed the advice of thousands of people before me. I laced up my sneakers and followed a plan. And I did it. I didn’t enjoy running a 26.2 mile road race — particularly not the last 13.1 miles — but I’m glad I finished what I started.

For the record, there’s no way in hell I will ever do that again.

But it taught me an important lesson. About writing. And publishing. And life.

‘Cause here’s the thing. Even though I never wanted to be a professional runner, I always wanted to be a professional writer. In grade school. In high school. In college. Even in law school, although I lost my way for a little while before, during and after that.

So I took what I learned about running a marathon and I applied it to writing. First, I looked around. Thousands upon thousands of people had written books and gotten them published. [Note: Even I had written a book; it’s never been published and never will be (see post about Failure, below), but I knew it was physically possible for me to complete the task.] I wanted to write a publishable book, so I read blogs from people who were successful at writing. I read a lot of books. (I’ve always read a lot of books.) I looked at the market and thought about what was popular in books right now, and I saw where I might be able to fit into a genre. I made a plan and I followed it.

And then I wrote a book. Every day for five months. You know how I knew I could do it? Because other people do it. And there is no such thing as magic people — we’re ALL muggles. I know that I’m not the most talented writer, and I’m not always the most rigorous person, but I made a plan and I followed it. I’ve published my second book and I’m working on a new series. And people — not all people, mind you — but people seem to really like my books. (Some people think they suck.)

If I’m being honest I’d tell you I’d love to quit, to stop obsessing, stop subjecting myself to sometimes maddeningly slow sales or a bad review, to just sit and watch HBO with my husband. But I just can’t. I won’t. Because here’s the thing, the thing about being who you are, and doing what you need to do: it’ll catch up with you eventually. It may take a while, like it took me. But you can’t hide from yourself. Listen to the voices in your head. They are your dreams. Your ambitions. Do not run from your dreams and your ambitions. They will not leave you alone, and if they do, well…then maybe you’re better off than me.

But even though there are some nights when I want to slam my head into the monitor, or some mornings when I’m looking at my watch and counting the minutes I can get off the treadmill, I keep putting one foot in front of the other, one more word on the page at a time. The alternative is a straightjacket. The alternative is a pig in a cage. On antibiotics. (Or whatever they said in that Radiohead song.)

The upside? I actually love writing. It always makes me feel better, just like running. So even when I think about quitting — walking, stopping, or shutting off the computer — I know better. I know to stay the course, because even though it doesn’t get any easier, you do get better at it.

xxoo

Leigh

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Failure Has an Upside. Do You Know What it is?

A few years ago I wrote a book that was never published. It took me every night for a year to write it. That’s a really long time. Part of the reason it took so long was that I didn’t know what I was doing; the other part of the problem was that I had a three-year old and a one-year old and I hadn’t slept in three years. That can make you kind of slow.

So, I finished the book AND I WAS SO EXCITED. I had big hopes, big dreams. I sent it out to fifty agents and got fifty rejections. I entered it in a contest and got horrible scores. I let my cousin read it. She was really nice, but she knew it sucked.

My own mother didn’t like it. And she told me so.

*sound of dreams crashing all around*

Guess what? I failed. I wrote a book that no one wanted to read. It was my life’s dream, and I was a Big. Fat. Failure.

But I’m here to tell you that failure is absolutely essential to success. I believe that, anyway.

It took me a while to bounce back. I had another child, life got in the way for a while, but eventually, I started writing again. I took the criticism that people had given me and thought about it. I re-read that old book and I realized that it DID in fact pretty much suck. It wasn’t a suck that was fixable, either. It didn’t have enough of a dramatic arc, nothing to make the reader feel really connected or engaged enough to see it through, and the MC was totally whiny in a non-endearing way. A lot of beginner’s errors. I could see that now. It felt really good to see it.

So you know what I did? I decided to be brave. I knew my life’s dream hadn’t changed. I took (an informed) leap of faith and I wrote another book. I worked hard. I used beta readers and an editor, revised it, polished it, and then I self-published. Now I’m almost done writing the sequel. I have another book planned for this spring.

What failure taught me was the damnedest thing. It taught me that you have to fail in order to believe in yourself. I thought my life’s dream was finished when my first book crashed and burned. But you know the funny thing? After a while, once I dusted myself off and started writing again…I felt something I’d never felt before in my professional life. I felt STRONG. I felt RESILIENT. I felt like I was fighting for something I really, really wanted. I’d gotten knocked down and I’d picked myself up.

You know what? The experience of trying again, after failing, made me trust myself. I knew then, and I know now, that I’m going to go to bat for my dreams. To work through disappointment. Now, if it had been skipping and hot chocolate and rainbows the whole way, how would I know that?

Thanks for reading. Hugs and kisses.

Advice from One Newbie Author to Others.

I’ve written two books since June. I self-published the first and the second is almost ready to go. I’ve learned a TON, and it’s been so fun. Here’s a brief rundown of what I’ve learned that’s worth sharing:

(1) I published exclusively on Amazon and I did KDP Select. This means I can’t sell my ebook on B&N, Smashwords, Kobo, or through any other venue. IT WAS FREE. THERE IS NO CHARGE FOR THIS SERVICE, EXCEPT AMAZON’S CUT OF THE ROYALTIES. You can earn 70% royalties on your book, and that’s impressive.

(2) I highly recommend KDP Select. It limits your ability to publish to other venues, but you can run promotions, check your sales and rank 24/7, update your cover, price, blurb, etc., and Amazon makes it easy. Like, even if you’re stupid with computers easy. Plus, any time I’ve had an issue or question, I’ve emailed Amazon and they’ve emailed me back within a day. Trust me, if you’ve spent any time in publishing, you know this is supremely awesome.

It’s so awesome it deserves a Lenny.

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(3) Two resources have been indispensable to me as an author and a self-publisher: Stephen King’s classic “On Writing,” and J.A. Konrath’s blog.

(4) Stephen King tells you to write every day. You’re a writer, right? So keep a word goal and right every day, even if you have PMS or your kid is throwing up. Or both. That’s the only way to ever get from Point A to Point B.

(5) You need to be informed about the book market; it’s in serious flux. You need to get informed and stay informed. (Konrath’s blog is great for that.)

(6) Look at other authors in your market — look at their covers, their bios, their websites, their blurbs, their marketing strategies. Look on Amazon and see what’s hot in your area. I’m not telling you to do this so you can have a comparathon, which turns into an angstathon, but just so you can be informed of the market you’re looking at.

(7) That being said, DON’T WASTE TIME ON ALL THE WHITE NOISE OUT THERE. Stop reading this blog. Get off Twitter or Instagram or Tumblr or whatever it is that you cool people do these days. Get back to your document. Finish it, and then edit the crap out of it. Have an honest friend read it. Get it proofread. Do a good cover. Go make yourself proud.

I’ll be back, eventually. We’re all in this together. Now good luck – go get ’em!